By Peggy Orenstein
The acclaimed writer of the groundbreaking bestseller Schoolgirls unearths the darkish part of purple and lovely: the increase of the girlie-girl, she warns, isn't that innocent.
Pink and beautiful or predatory and hardened, sexualized girlhood affects our daughters from infancy onward, telling them that how a lady seems concerns greater than who she is. someplace among the exhilarating upward thrust of woman strength within the Nineteen Nineties and this present day, the pursuit of actual perfection has been recast as a source—the source—of lady empowerment. And commercialization has unfold the message swifter and farther, achieving women at ever-younger ages.
But, realistically, what number occasions are you able to say no whilst your daughter begs for a pint-size marriage ceremony dress or the newest Hannah Montana CD? and the way risky is red and lovely anyway—especially given girls' successes within the lecture room and at the taking part in box? Being a princess is simply make-believe, finally; finally they develop out of it. Or do they? Does taking part in Cinderella safeguard women from early sexualization—or leading them for it? may perhaps today's little princess turn into tomorrow's sexting youngster? And what if she does? could that make her answerable for her sexuality—or an unwitting captive to it?
Those questions hit domestic with Peggy Orenstein, so she went sleuthing. She visited Disneyland and the overseas toy reasonable, trolled American woman position and Pottery Barn childrens, and met attractiveness competition mom and dad with preschoolers tricked out like Vegas showgirls. She dissected the technological know-how, created an internet avatar, and parsed the unique fairy stories. The stakes change into greater than she—or we—ever imagined: not anything below the future health, improvement, and futures of our ladies. From untimely sexualization to the danger of melancholy to emerging premiums of narcissism, the aptitude destructive influence of this new girlie-girl tradition is undeniable—yet armed with know-how and popularity, mom and dad can successfully counterbalance its impression of their daughters' lives.
Cinderella Ate My Daughter is a must-read for an individual who cares approximately ladies, and for folks aiding their daughters navigate the rocky street to maturity.
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Extra resources for Cinderella Ate My Daughter: Dispatches from the Front Lines of the New Girlie-Girl Culture
Women with ADHD were reported to have a significantly lower level sense of well-being in the areas of self-acceptance, control over their environment, positive relations with others, autonomy, and purpose in life, but not in personal growth (Burton, 2005). Overall, these findings confirm the psychological suffering that women with ADHD experience and the overall loss of their sense of well-being, as they struggle to meet gender-role norms and deal with their ADHD on a daily basis. Without the benefit of a diagnosis, girls and women with ADHD are often not only at the mercy of their own self-blame, but are also subjected to the misunderstanding and stereotyping of society in general.
By not calling attention to themselves behaviorally, socially, or academically, they run the risk of not being diagnosed until later in life, if at all. In one study, Yale psychologists Thomas E. Brown and Donald Quinlan evaluated 74 students, aged 7 to 18 years, with IQ scores above 120 (in the top 9% of the population), referred for chronic underachievement. Most of these students had no behavioral problems and were not hyperactive, but they did have attention deficits. Students in this study had experienced 2 to 10 years of deteriorating grades before their attention problems were recognized.
QXP 9/24/10 5:31 PM Page 22 100 QUESTIONS & ANSWERS ABOUT ADHD IN WOMEN AND GIRLS Why would this be the case? Additional study findings may hold a clue. When the results were analyzed, only 24% of the girls with inattentive subtype and only 45% of the combined subtype were still on stimulant medication! I personally feel that this failure to continue medication treatment for ADHD may be the reason why so few of these girls who were diagnosed in childhood were showing a positive adjustment in adolescence, despite the fact that girls and their families had accessed some other form of therapy.
Cinderella Ate My Daughter: Dispatches from the Front Lines of the New Girlie-Girl Culture by Peggy Orenstein